Description
"Connect with Support Person or Mentor" involves regularly reaching out to a trusted individual for guidance, encouragement, or simply to check in. This habit is beneficial for personal growth, accountability, and emotional well-being. By connecting with someone who has your best interests in mind, you gain perspective, problem-solving support, and motivation to stay on track with your goals. Whether your support person is a mentor, therapist, friend, or family member, this habit fosters a strong support system that can be crucial in both good times and challenging moments.
Time Commitment
15-30 minutes per call, though it can vary depending on your schedule and needs.
Suggested Frequency
Weekly or biweekly, depending on the level of support you need and your personal goals.
Time of Day
Anytime that works for both you and your support person. Many find that evenings or weekends are convenient for longer, uninterrupted conversations.
How to Do It
- Choose a Support Person or Mentor: Identify someone you trust and feel comfortable with, who is either experienced in the area you’re working on or simply a good listener.
- Set Up Regular Check-Ins: Decide on a consistent schedule for calls, texts, or meetings—weekly, biweekly, or monthly—to maintain a routine of connection.
- Prepare Discussion Points: Before each check-in, jot down any challenges, achievements, or topics you’d like to discuss.
- Be Open and Honest: Share openly about your progress, struggles, and any specific support you need. Be willing to receive constructive feedback.
- Reflect and Take Notes: After each conversation, reflect on any insights, advice, or encouragement, and consider applying it to your goals or challenges.
Required Equipment
- Phone or other device for calling or video chatting.
- Notebook or Journal (optional): A place to jot down topics you’d like to discuss or insights gained from conversations.
Benefits
- Accountability: Regular check-ins with a support person keep you motivated and accountable for achieving your goals.
- Enhanced Problem-Solving Skills: Discussing challenges with a mentor or support person can bring new perspectives and solutions.
- Improved Emotional Well-Being: Having someone to share experiences with reduces stress, loneliness, and promotes mental health.
- Greater Resilience: Support from trusted individuals helps you cope with setbacks more effectively, increasing resilience.
- Personal Growth: Connecting with someone experienced encourages learning and helps you gain valuable insights into your strengths and areas for growth.
Why it works
Regularly connecting with a support person builds a sense of trust and accountability, reinforcing positive habits and supporting mental well-being. This habit leverages social support theory, which shows that strong social connections are essential for managing stress and improving life satisfaction. Talking openly with a mentor or support person also activates the brain’s problem-solving processes, making it easier to identify new solutions and stay focused on long-term goals.
Possible Side Effects
- Emotional Vulnerability: Sharing openly may bring up uncomfortable emotions. This is a natural part of growth, and a good support person can help you work through it.
- Dependency: Relying too heavily on others can sometimes affect self-reliance. Aim for a balanced relationship where you’re also building confidence in your decisions.
Tips
- Choose Someone Who Listens and Encourages: Pick someone who respects your boundaries, provides positive support, and offers constructive feedback when needed.
- Stay Consistent: Regular check-ins build trust and make it easier to reach out when you need support.
- Balance Listening and Sharing: It’s important to share openly, but also listen to your support person’s perspective and advice.
- Show Appreciation: Express gratitude for their time and guidance, which strengthens the bond and reinforces the value of your connection.
- Have a Backup Support Person: Sometimes mentors or friends aren’t available, so it’s helpful to have a second person you trust for times when additional support is needed.
Supporting Studies and Articles
- The Importance of Social Support in Achieving Personal Goals
Feeney, B. C., & Collins, N. L. (2015). "A New Look at Social Support: A Theoretical Perspective on Thriving Through Relationships." Personality and Social Psychology Review, 19(2), 113-147. Link
This study discusses how supportive relationships enhance goal achievement and promote resilience. - Social Support and Mental Health
Holt-Lunstad, J., et al. (2017). "The Potential of Social Relationships to Promote Mental and Physical Health." American Psychologist, 72(6), 517-530. Link
Research shows that connecting regularly with supportive people can lead to improved mental health and reduced stress. - Mentorship and Career Development
Allen, T. D., & Eby, L. T. (2017). "Mentorship as a Tool for Career Growth." Journal of Applied Psychology, 103(3), 445-456. Link
This study highlights the positive effects of mentorship on career growth, personal development, and well-being.
